Body Beauty: Creating Your Own Definition of a Natural, Beautiful Body

Special Excerpt from The Curvelle Lifestyle by Jenny Hendershott

"There isn't one way to be beautiful. Honestly, there are literally millions and millions of ways!"

Every girl who comes to Phat Camp has some kind of goal she wants to achieve. Every girl who comes to me for advice has a goal as well. In fact, every girl I know wants to accomplish something! And I'll bet that's true for you too: you also have a goal, and that's why you're reading this newsletter.

Often, these goals have something to do with beauty. One girl wants to get rid of her pregnancy/post-baby fat. Another wants to slim down her thighs to look better in her favorite jeans. One girl wants to tone up and look beautiful for bikini season. Another just wants to lose 25 pounds to look better—period.

Understanding Real Beauty

There's nothing wrong with wanting to be beautiful, and there's certainly nothing wrong with having a goal. In fact, it's almost impossible to get anywhere in life without goals. But not every goal is a good goal.

For example, if your goal is not really your own but is borrowed from someone else, it's probably not going to be right for you. And becoming more beautiful is only a good goal for you if you understand what beauty really is.

Let me share my perspective on real beauty...

The most important thing to understand about beauty is that it comes in all flavors. There isn't one way to be beautiful. Honestly, there are literally millions and millions of ways! Too many girls focus on trying to look like someone else instead of becoming the best they can be. They compare themselves to others around them or to images in magazines and on TV instead of looking in the mirror and saying, "OK, this is what I was given. How am I going to make my body the best I can possibly make it?"

It drives me crazy when girls point at models and celebrities from the movies or fashion magazines and say, "She's perfect. I want to look like her"! Some girls even tell me I have the perfect body, and they want to look just like me! But you know what? Perfect does not exist.

There isn't a single person on earth who can do anything perfectly. There's no such thing as the perfect job or the perfect spouse. And nobody has a perfect body.

If your goal is perfection, you're guaranteed to fail. And if your goal is to look like anyone else, perfect or not, you won't succeed, because you can't escape your body.

So please stop coveting the beauty of other girls. Until you do, it will be impossible to find your own true beauty. It's also important that you don't let society define beauty for you. In fact, you can't allow anyone in your life to define the type of beauty you should have.

A lot of us are pressured by spouses, boyfriends, or others to lose weight or change our appearance. But chasing a beauty standard that isn't your own is a recipe for failure.

You need to develop your own opinion about yourself instead of listening to others. Then stick to it! Because only you have the power to bring out your own unique beauty.

In The Curvelle Lifestyle, Jenny Hendershott provides all the powerful, proven techniques she has learned in her 15-plus years, boiled down to a personalized 9-week plan to help you build your best body!

Creating Your Own Definition of Beauty

Do you want to become more beautiful? That's great. But you must do it for yourself. Every minute of every day, you have to be in control of your own body and your own self. That's how you're going to achieve results. You're the only one who can make yourself get up early and go to the gym to bust your butt. You're the only one who can control what you put in your mouth and what you say "yes" or "no" to. So you are the only one who can decide what it means for you to be beautiful.

The second most important thing to understand about beauty is that it truly comes from within. In our society, we spend a lot of time judging books by their covers. And we do the same thing to ourselves. But it's really what's on the inside of a person that makes her pretty or ugly. When you feel good on the inside, you exude a confidence and a radiant glow that most people around you will respond to.

I'm not saying that how you look on the outside doesn't matter. I'm saying that the best way to look beautiful on the outside is to become a healthier, happier, more balanced person on the inside.

It's not enough just to lose weight or dress better if you want to be beautiful. You also have to nourish your body and get active so you're bursting with energy and excitement. You have to build confidence and self-esteem by learning to accept yourself and by achieving small goals along the way toward big ones. You even have to manage the stress in your life so you can be your best self with others.

Everything matters when it comes to being beautiful: everything!

One of the girls at a recent Phat Camp told me, "I don't feel comfortable in my own skin." I told her, "That's a shame, because in the few short minutes I've been standing here talking with you, I've already noticed three things about you that are beautiful." And I meant it.

You have the potential for great beauty, too. By understanding what it really means to be beautiful and by setting a goal to achieve your unique beauty instead of someone else's, you will bring out all of that beauty potential inside you. Let it shine!

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